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I have cPTSD but relate a LOT to DID… can it feel similar? I have part that clearly talk to me and take the front if triggered but most of the time I am aware of it

This is helpful. Thanks!

My biggest struggle was related to toxic shame, which was somehow an internal battle. I was toxically shamed since early childhood. Unfortunately, I developed a shame-based identity that was operating within me 24/7. I was painfully self-conscious whenever I talked to people. If I wanted to laugh, I felt ashamed. When eating in public, I felt ashamed. When making eye contact, I felt ashamed. When walking in public, I felt ashamed. Whatever I was doing in the eyes of others, I felt ashamed. I was basically shamed at my core. That toxic shame was a defensive mechanism? I don't know - yet. But it was plaguing my soul because I felt like I didn't exist psychologically. There is a difference between regular shame and toxic shame. The toxic one is excruciatingly painful. Moreover, you can't make eye contact without feeling awkward; that makes people feel uncomfortable around you.

Know I see why I'm so addicted to dancing. I just dont feel the fears anymore unfortunately I over worry and think and can't dance daily

Great clarification

This man and his work are a true gift to humanity.

It's so hard for me to self regulate. Im struggling getting everything done. Why is life so difficult? Plus I never fully heal from the pain from my last relationship. I miss him so much when he's gone. Going back doesn't help either. I feel so lost in life.

my self is rejected like the resentment it is identified with

Thank you for this. Great information, and I shared this video with my colleagues.

I was not told. I was shamed when my mom slapped her slipper on my mouth at age 7

The only shame I had is who my parents were...and the place of my birth.

Why do I keep seeing this?

Magnificent insightful

Thanks

the hug made me feel instantly safe and sad at the same time. i remembered what i once had and then lost at an early age.

This is Bessel van Der Kolk. He wrote the book The Body Keeps The Score. It has changed my life for the better and I can safely say millions for the better, fellow trauma survivors. Please give it a read and do not rush through it even if the topic may not apply to you. This man is a wonderful source of knowledge on how the mind and events in our lifetime (good and bad) can affect our very physiology. The blue book with the figure of a person on it, thats the one. All the best!

This mans so right

I recently bought a body pillow to help me to learn to sleep on my side. I find it comforting and soothing and helping me to sleep better. Now i understand I'm soothing my trauma. ❤ Thank you. Also explained why i felt sexual feelings for a guy who gave me a great hug even tho i didn't know him well. I really loved the hug at the time. However, afyer i attached to him in an unhealthy way.😮

As a BPD diagnosed person, Marsha did sell me the idea of "lets do this, it will hurt but when you finally get to the top of the ladder, the horrible pain finally will end." ❤ Lets focus on effectiveness and wise mind. ❤

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I've been rejected by women all my life. I'm now 75. Rejection saps confidence, induces resentment, jealousy, bitterness, low self esteem - and loneliness. It affects every aspect of one's life including working life - as it did in my case. I feel worthless. For me it's been the worst thing in my life - and I've had cancer!

I found a way to fall asleep with a self hug and my legs intertwined. Very comforting.

Did this exercise for the first time briefly. Am on the edge of terror, despair, frozenness. Will continue to try this exercise off and on, today and tomorrow especially.(Summer Solstice today 20/06/24; Full moon tomorrow; triggering happening on the property I live on)